Tuesday, May 15, 2012

The Country Road

There is no denying that living with constant chronic pain is not easy.

Through the internet, I have come to meet many people living with pain. We try to support one another. We try to lift each other's spirits. We just try to help one another.

But from time to time, we all wish we could do the things we used to do and to be able to do things faster. But perhaps we need to learn to take small steps, and in taking those small steps, we will notice the things which people taking larger steps just don't notice. Things they take for granted.

Supposing we all have a destination. We have a choice.....we can go on the busy motorway, get really stressed out along the way about the busy, fast moving traffic, or we can choose to go on the quiet country roads, the much more scenic route. The motorway journey will get us there twice as fast, but that country road is slow. We just never know who we might get stuck behind - it could take forever.

But here we are, the chronic pain sufferers, we have no choice, we can't take that motorway journey.

We must take that country road.

We'll get there just the same. But it will be a much longer journey. But imagine what we might see along the way? We have to take our time. That means we can enjoy the scenery. We can take the time to watch the clouds in the sky. We can take the time to look at the birds in the air.

But most of all, we have time for other people on that same journey. And they have time for us. They might stop to spend a few minutes with us, even though it makes their own journey a bit longer. They might even point out something that they noticed along the way.  And, if you need a bit of help, it is guaranteed that someone will come along and give you whatever you need.  If you break down on that country road, a fellow traveller will help you out. They will understand why you have broken down. They will help you. They will support you. They will let you lean on them until you are able to carry on.

Does that happen on the motorway?

Thankfully, there will always be some people who are not chronic pain sufferers who choose to take that country road along with us. They take it because they want to help the people who have no choice. There are many people out there like that. And if you are one of those people I thank you, because you are making someone's journey a little bit easier.

If you live with chronic pain, I hope that you can find some good points to your journey. Take a look across at your fellow travellers and say hello, because maybe right now, they could use a rest and a chat.



16 comments:

  1. this is lovely liz. very nice, i like it.
    love kathy

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  2. Thanks Liz. Some of us are living with chronic pain that is mental and emotional rather than physical but it's pain never the less. It helps me that others are suffering as I am, even though I wish none of us were. H x

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    1. Emotional pain like yours is probably even harder to cope with, but, yes you travel on that same road along with so many others. We can only help each other and try to make the journey a little bit easier.
      Thank you for reading and commenting,
      Liz
      xx

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  3. Wonderful way to look at things, Liz. Thanks as always for sharing. :)

    Erika

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  4. Oh how I wish I could take away the chronic pain that you suffer every day but I also wish that I had just a little bit of your talent for writing - for having just the right words to say and for writing with such emotion and prose. It is easy to understand why you are a great friend to so many and why your words can brighten up the darkest day for others who are suffering from both physical and emotional pain. I am very, very proud to have you as a sister and a friend and am now off to dream of that country road and will certainly think twice before taking the motorway. Lots of love, Janice xxxx

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    1. I know you wish you could take it away. And thank you, because your words have brightened my day. Hope you had sweet dreams.
      Lots of love,
      Elizabeth
      xxx

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  5. I loved this. It is so true on many levels. We rush through life and do not take time to enjoy the scenery. I hope I am never one of those on the motorway who don't ever stop to help those in need of help. I too wish I had your talent with words. We can all learn from you. Thank you for posting this as it has really given me food for thought. Love you

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    1. I'm glad you like it so much and I am sure that you already do help those in need. Love you too....even though I'm not really sure who you are ;o)

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  6. Bravo, What an excellent post, I know exactly where you are coming from. What is interesting though is sometimes when people put “services” on the country road travellers often forget to keep their head up and look for opportunities. As a chronic pain sufferer who is often floored with bouts of severe depression I started a Pain Support Group which aims to bring those travellers together. It is such a shame that so many feel so low they use every excuse to avoid joining in. I believe that when an opportunity comes along, especially when it is free, try it. To do that you have to take the country road and look out of the window too.

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    1. Yes, I can only agree with you there. It is good for fellow travellers to get together. It can help them on their journey. But maybe some people just aren't ready to join in. They might be one day and then you'll be able to be there with your input.

      This road of ours is kind of bumpy. Maybe some people are too afraid of the bumps hurting them more, so they are too busy holding on and just don't manage to look out of the windows. I don't suppose we can push them, only support them. We can only hope that one day, they'll feel confident enough to let go and look.

      Hope your pain isn't too severe at the moment.
      Liz

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  7. Wow! Powerful, thought provoking post Liz. I guess it's also about taking an opportunity when you do feel a bit better to go out and take in the "view" -not an easy balance with overdoing it either, but my husband says that the upside of that risk is worth the few days after. Gilly

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  8. Hi Gilly,
    I do sometimes suffer a few days of worse pain because I have pushed myself. But, like your husband, I tend to say it was worth it.
    Thanks again for commenting,
    Liz

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  9. Hi Liz,
    Thank goodness for fellow travelers like you who take the time to point out what others may miss. Thank you as always for sharing. You touch a lot of people on your journey.
    Love Natalie xxx

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    1. What a lovely thing to say, Natalie.
      Your comments, and everyone else's, really do mean so much to me.
      Thank you,
      Liz
      xx

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